Teenage Communication
Teenage communication seems like an oxymoron.  When we ask a
question the answer comes in a grunt or monosyllabic word for an
answer.  Let's face it teenagers don't speak the same language we do!  
Yet, communication is probably more crucial at this age than at any other.  
Although communication at this age doesn't always look like 'real'
communication, being available to listen may be of greater importance
now than any other time in your child's life.  Below are some simple
guidelines to good communication with teens.  Study them, there will
probably be a test in several years.
  • Make yourself available for takes and try to have them each day.  At the
    same time, be respectful of your teen's need for silence.
  • Offer praise when deserved and remember to express your love, even if
    your teen acts like it doesn't matter. It does.
  • Show that you're paying attention: use good eye contact and ask for
    clarification if needed.
  • Be positive and encouraging, and choose words and concepts that
    teens understand.
  • Rather than jump to conclusions, give your teen a chance to explain
    thoughts and actions.
  • Ban communication-stoppers such as guilt, commands, ultimatums,
    preaching, judging, or works like "never" or "always"
  • Be brief.  Most teens tune out nagging, and retain shorter messages
    longer.
  • Practice win-win communication.  A healthy compromise with both parties
    feeling like winners helps teens learn negotiation skills.
  • When the consequence of a conflict won't harm your teen, give him or
    her the opportunity to disagree without being accused of "talking back."
    Your teen will gain self-respect.
  • Don't feel you have to know everything.  It's OK to say, "I don't know, but
    let's find out together."
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